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Explore the swinging lifestyle with our tips and tricks for newbies and experienced swingers and swinger couples. Discover how to meet swingers near you, what to know before you go to a swingers club or party, the sexiest cities for swingers, how to find a unicorn, how to have a threesome, how to be a hotwife, and how to talk to your partner about swinging. Learn common swinging terms like "wife swapping" in our exclusive Swingers Glossary. Read real-life sexy swinger stories from our SDC members about everything from their first swinging experiences to their hottest hotwifing adventures.
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Ignite Dramatically Intense Orgasms with the Prostate Massager Molto
This doctor-designed prostate vibrator unlocks the secrets to next-level pleasure and sexual health.

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Sophia and Rod are in a Stag Vixen Relationship
Sophia and Rod are in a Stag Vixen relationship, and they both called in to talk all about it.

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We’re Officially Swingers
Listen in as Chloe and Mike talk about their first full swap!


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Garments, Drama, and Oh Boy, the Truth Box!
In this episode, Lauren and Ben discuss Episode 4 of The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives and share their personal updates before diving into THE key event, the “sh*t show” of the birthday celebration weekend.

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Topless Tastings & The ‘Book of Rumors’ Season Send-Off
In this episode, Ben and Lauren recap The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives finale.

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Peach on the Beach and Cream Colored Jeans
In this spicy episode, Lauren and Ben discuss labiaplasty, why no one does paintings of balls, and whether rubbing oil on a Chippendale's chest will keep you out of (Mormon) heaven.


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The First Look at The First Book of Taylor
Lauren, a swinger, and Ben, who is polyamorous, set the stage by introducing themselves and sharing their frustrations with how the media often misrepresents their communities.

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We are Not in Utah Anymore
Listen in as Lauren and Ben talk about episode 7 of The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, which all takes place in Sin City.

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Seeking Pleasure Can Get Out of Hand
Lauren and Ben discuss the complexities of episode two of the series The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives.


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Book of Broken Friendships
In this episode, Lauren and Ben discuss friendship, ENM, stress, conflict, and soda shops.

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Introducing: The Examined Lives of the Secret Wives!
Join Lauren Hayes, your Swinging Lifestyle Coach and expert in ethical non-monogamy, alongside her co-host Ben, an ex-LDS polyamorous friend, as they dive into the reality TV show The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives.

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Reclaiming the Term “Swinger”
Over the years, certain words have carried negative connotations, creating stigmas that linger long after their initial usage. For those of us in the ethically non-monogamous (ENM) community, one of those words is swinger.


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How Do I MAKE My Partner Join the Lifestyle?
This is a very common question appearing on forums and social media. It cannot be answered, but a clear response is needed.

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Queen of Spades: Unpacking the Fetishization of Black Men
Understanding the Queen of Spades Symbol in the Swinger Community: A Complex Intersection of Desire and Stereotypes

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Hottest Swingers Clubs: World Edition
Discover the most seductive swinger lifestyle clubs around the globe and the sexy secrets within.


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Swinging During Perimenopause & Menopause
The article discusses how perimenopause and menopause can impact the swinging lifestyle for women.

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Unraveling the Psychology of the Swinging Lifestyle
Dr. Stephanie Sigler explores the psychological threads that make the swinging lifestyle not just a sexual choice but a nuanced interpersonal dynamic.

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Naturally Improve His Sexual Health & Wellness
How can men use sex toys to improve their sexual health and wellness?


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Embracing Nerves & Excitement Before a Same-Sex Play Session
Starting a new experience can be both thrilling and nerve-wracking, especially when it involves a same-sex play session.

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Embrace the Fun: Outfits & Confidence in the Lifestyle
In this unscripted episode, Jason dives into the importance of outfits in the lifestyle and how they can help boost your confidence, especially if you feel socially awkward at parties and events.

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Empowerment in the Lifestyle: Dancing in the Rain
Jason shares his experience from a recent hotel takeover event that was more than just a party — it was a celebration of life, freedom, and the empowerment that the lifestyle offers.


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Unlocking the Secrets to a Better You: Lifestyle Wellness Tips
Jason discusses lifestyle health and wellness with special guest Matt Shannon from HealthFitMD.

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Cultivating Compersion in the Lifestyle
Host Jason delves into the world of ethical non-monogamy, discussing the essence of compersion — a unique form of happiness derived from witnessing another's joy.

The Truth About Key Parties: Myth, History, and Consent
In this episode, Jason dives deep into the myth and history of key parties, exploring why they are problematic in the modern lifestyle, especially concerning consent.