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Secret Signs of Being a Swinger Revealed

Maddy V

Like any good secret society, there are plenty of myths surrounding the "secret signs" of swinging.

As open as the Lifestyle is within its own circles, it's still extremely closed off to the rest of the world due to stigmas and lack of acceptance, still. So, how do you know if someone is in the Lifestyle without revealing your own secret? It would be nice if there were some clear signs to let everyone know. Like any good secret society, there are plenty of myths surrounding the "secret signs" of swinging, so SDC.com is here to let you in on a few of the urban legends surrounding swinging.

Garden Pampasgras

According to SunOnline, garden pampasgras is not just garden decoration but a secret signal that the residents are into liberal sexual practices. It seems that pampasgras sales have fallen due to the association with swingers. Is it true that pampagras is a secret sign? What if it grows in the garden of a school? A church? A nursery home?

White, Pink and Purple in the Garden

To stick with gardens: Some websites claim that white landscaping rocks indicate if you want another couple to play with you. Also pink or purple decorations in the front garden are a hidden signal of lifestyle activity. Put down some pink flamingos if you are!

Garden Gnomes

They look so very innocent. But the smile of the poor little gnomes may be misleading: Some websites state that they are a signal for other lifestyle lovers.

Pineapple-Shaped Door Knockers

You like pineapples? If you have a door knocker in the shape of a pineapple, you are supposed to be into swinging. Even if you are not!

Black Rings

Cooper Beckett, host of a lifestyle podcast told The Stranger that many swingers wear a black ring and that the place of the ring indicates if you are open to meeting other swingers or not. According to Beckett, you need to wear the black ring on your right hand if you are. We think that it’s safe to start a conversation if you see someone with a black ring. Maybe they just like that kind of jewelry.

Anklets, Toe- and Thumbrings

Those seem to be a symbol of alternative lifestyle, too. We do question the statement that changing your wedding ring to the right hand is also a secret swingers sign. In some religions you are supposed to wear your wedding band on the right hand.

Wristbands

This is a far more likely sign of being in the lifestyle. There are bands given out to members of lifestyle clubs, such as SDC.com. No doubt about that.