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Fit Couples and the Swinger Lifestyle
You see the phrase often posted on profiles: "searching for a fit couple." Are they looking for well-toned muscles and a six-pack? What does “being fit” in the lifestyle really mean? If you don’t have an athletic body, does that then disqualify you from partaking in the lifestyle? The answers may surprise you…
A Fit Lifestyle Fits the Lifestyle
Of course, when you’re out and about in lifestyle circles, your physique and personal presentation as a single or couple are important, as your body is basically your business card. As in regular dating, your appearance when it comes to first impressions and that first click can make or break a date. Being a fit couple can mean a lot of things other than just looking good on the outside. It also means taking care of your bodies, smelling nice, having your private bits well-groomed, your tests up to date, being a drama-free, sexy couple to be with, for starters.
When you browse profiles on sites, visit clubs, and partake in travel events, you’ll meet a lot of couples that take pride in how they look. Their bodies may be well-toned, and you’ll find them most likely in the gym at 7 am or going for a refreshing jog after a sexy night of play. But is this representative of all those in the lifestyle? For some, probably yes, but for all? No, not quite so!
Life Happens
When someone looks fit on the outside, it doesn’t necessarily mean that the person is healthy. Fitness and health are two different animals altogether. Having a toned body is usually a bit more effortless for the younger swingers among us. Those in their 40s and 50s, having lived life longer, didn’t really come all this way without some wear and tear on their bodies. Boobies may not be as perky as they once were, tushies may no longer be the two firm balls off of which you can bounce a dime. Therefore, a successful swinger is perhaps not exactly what you might initially envision.
Is a Fit Couple the Same as an Athletic Couple?
Athletes come in all sizes and shapes, and the same goes for swingers. You can be considered a physically fit couple, but not necessarily be athletic. Being athletic means that you actively engage in some sort of athletic endeavor. Now, be it that sexual activity can sometimes certainly qualify like that, being athletic is not a pre-requisite for playing in lifestyle circles. In clubs and at events, you’ll quickly see that you don’t have to have a certain look or body type in order to partake. Real bodies are really sexy, and those in the lifestyle know this and are actually way more inclusive, accepting, and in general, less judgmental.
Don’t Be a Starfish!
While fitness is surely a way of life for many — after all, physical appearance is typically a primary thing of what people attract to each other — it may be a surprise to you that how you look is actually one of the lesser important parts of being considered fit on the whole. For one, being fit just means you are in average or optimal condition for your age range. Being a fit couple also means that you feel great and are energetic. It has a lot to do with being fit mentally as well. In short, being a fit couple in the lifestyle has everything to do with being able to do the sexy things you want in addition to being people that are fun to be around.
We’ve seen it happen — a fit-looking couple with absolutely amazing looks end up being on their own most of the time because they were not outgoing and didn’t radiate a matching energy to their looks. These “starfish” may have been lovely to look at, but they clearly lacked in other areas.
That explains why even though looks are important, they alone don’t really cut it. It’s refreshing to see most couples radiating confidence and utter sexiness with plenty of “takers” around them.
Embrace Yourselves!
At travel events, it’s clear at check-in that it’s not only those with perfect bodies attending and off to play. When you look around, you’ll most likely see normal-looking people with real bodies; some with average looks to gorgeous, of course, yet most appear super confident and comfortable within their bodies, in love with their partner. It's this combination that makes them radiate all that sexiness!
So, be true to who you are, and embrace your body — you don’t have to be Mr. Six-pack or Ms. World! In the lifestyle, you can just be you! The swinger lifestyle includes and embraces all body types, shapes, and sizes! So, don’t be discouraged when you see folks posting about wanting to be only with other people or couples who are fit. Your looks are one thing, but there are many more elements that come into focus and play in the lifestyle that are equally or even more important.
Our favorite song to play at least once during each event is the song “Beautiful People,” as that is how we truly feel about all guests attending our meet-and-greets, parties, and events around the world.
You are all beautiful!
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