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Are you curious about anal play but not sure where to start? You’re not alone! 

As people have become more open about talking about sexuality and our bodies, anal pleasure has become a more common topic.

We all have butts, which means that everybody — and every body — can experiment with and enjoy anal pleasure. 

Adding a sex toy into the mix is a fun and exciting way to spice up your sex life, connect with each other, and learn more about your own and each other’s bodies.

A versatile couples vibrator like MysteryVibe’s Crescendo can create a pleasurable and intimate sexperience for both of you, and help ease some of the nervousness that may come with trying new things sexually.

Here are some things you should know as you and your partner start your anal exploration, and some sexy tips to help you reach orgasmic new heights together!

Butt Stuff: The Great Gender Equalizer

There’s a LOT of misinformation and stigma when it comes to anal stimulation, which have contributed to making people reluctant to try playing with their (and their partner’s) butts.

This is especially true when it comes to men. There’s a big myth that if you’re a guy, playing with your butt (and having someone else play with your butt) will make you gay.

First off, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay, bicurious, bisexual, pansexual, or any other sexual orientation. Plus, enjoying something sexually has no bearing on your sexual orientation! 

When it comes to sex, we have nothing to be embarrassed about! It’s all about connecting with our bodies (and our partners) and enjoying ourselves — shamelessly.

Feeling good about our bodies and our relationships is a focus of sexual health and wellness companies like MysteryVibe, who have received international acclaim and won multiple awards for their cutting-edge sex tech for men, women, and couples. 

And when it comes to butt stuff, MysteryVibe’s Crescendo can give you the flexibility to take your coupled sex lives to the next level!

How You and Your Partner Can Get Started with Anal Play

Take your curiosity a step further by talking to your partner. Like any kind of sexual play, it’s important to make sure your partner is into trying something new before doing it. This is a great opportunity to talk about comfort, boundaries, safety, and any other concerns, as well as propose some creative ideas.

Once you’re both on the same page and ready to go a step further, arm yourselves with some good-quality lubricant. Lube is your best friend for any kind of sexual play, and most especially for anal play. Unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating. Whether you’re using your fingers or a toy for external and / or internal anal stimulation, lubricant will ensure a smooth glide and prevent abrasions and microtears of this super-sensitive tissue. I recommend a versatile water-based lube like Pjur AQUA that’s compatible with latex and all kinds of sex toy materials.

Start SLOWLY and get comfortable as you both ease into it. Breathe and focus on the way your body feels and how you’re connecting with your partner. Make sure that you (or whoever is receiving anal pleasure) are feeling relaxed and comfortable. Once you’re settled in and your mind is at ease, your body won’t be tensed up, and it will be much easier and smoother to just enjoy the stimulation you receive.

Communicate with each other on what feels good and where, if you want them to go faster, slower, at a different angle, use more intensity, and so forth. Don’t be shy! Your partner wants you to feel good, so help them to deliver the kind of stimulation that gives you pleasure. And don’t be shy to take breaks during playtime if you need a little breather. 

Keep in mind that you’re both trying something new with each other for the first time! Just enjoy the journey, and don’t focus on achieving orgasm. Anal orgasms might not come easily — pun intended. As long as you’re focusing on the moment, each other, the connection between you, and the sensations you’re experiencing in your body, you can really let go.

Since every body is shaped differently, and your mood for certain kinds of stimulation can change each time you play, and evolve as you experience new things, tuning in to your body and communicating with your partner is key.

Well, good news, sexperimenters! There’s a toy — and an app — to help you with all that!

Versatile Vibes

Crescendo is the world’s first vibrator designed to mimic your fingers. It’s super bendy and flexible so it adapts to your unique shape and body, letting you customize which of your hot spots you want to hit each time. As a couples sex toy, it adds extra oomph because you can share the vibes (and we at SDC are all about sharing)!

The smooth, slim design of Crescendo makes it ultra-comfortable for sexual play, especially for newbies to anal exploration. It’s like using your fingers, but WAY better, because there are six motors throughout the length of Crescendo.

You can use MysteryVibe’s free app on your smartphone, which works up to 30 feet away to let you live-control each of these powerful motors individually, and create your own vibration patterns as you discover what feels best. 

And even as you advance from newbie status in your sexpertise, you can find so many new uses and positions for this toy and the app… your creativity and erotic possibilities are endless!

This sexy vibrator is like having infinite toys in one, which makes it an incredibly versatile toy to add to your sex drawer (or kink closet, in my case).

Anal Orgasms: NOT Just an Urban Legend

Anal orgasms are not a myth! With education and practice, you CAN climax through anal play. 

The anus has LOTS of nerve endings, and it can feel amazing when you just externally stimulate around the anus, without even exploring internally.

When you’re first getting started with familiarizing yourself with this new erogenous zone, working the outside area is the best way to get comfortable with butt play, and help you and your partner discover what feels good for each of you.

In cisgender men and people with prostates, the P-spot (sometimes called the “Male G-Spot”) is an often-overlooked erogenous zone that can result in explosive orgasms. 33% of men and prostate owners surveyed reported stronger and longer orgasms when incorporating prostate massage into sexual play.¹

Exploring His P-Spot

The P-spot is a walnut-sized gland that’s located just below the bladder, about two inches inside the front wall of the rectum.

Even if you’re not comfortable enough for internal anal play, you and/or your partner can also indirectly stimulate your prostate via the perineum (colloquially known as the “taint”), which is the small area of sensitive skin between the scrotum (behind the testicles) and the anus. 

Crescendo lets you customize the vibration speed and intensity to help you find what feels best for you, and the flexible, bendable toy makes it easy to switch up the angle as you explore these sexy new positions!

Here are three sexy ways to add external perineal pleasure to your play with Crescendo, brought to you by MysteryVibe’s Playbook:

Vibrating Grip

Give your partner a hand... Hold Crescendo against your partner’s shaft as you sensually kiss and caress their lips and body. To add intensity, try slightly tightening and loosening your grip on the penis in an upwards motion.

Perineal Lift Off

Sitting on the edge of a bed or chair, bend Crescendo so that it vibrates powerfully against your perineum and you can feel the vibrations all the way up your shaft. Stroke your penis — experiment with different movements, pressures, and speeds to enhance your orgasm.

Vibe and Blow

Whilst wrapping your lips around the tip, place Crescendo under the base of the penis with the fins stimulating the perineum. The vibrations will excite the nerve endings in both the penis and the mouth, adding that extra buzz to your oral play.

Kink it Up! Take Couples Play to the Next Level

Once you master some of these moves, add extra creativity to your playtime with MysteryVibe’s Crescendo Playcards, each with a position to make your sex even spicier! Here are a few tips to inspire you:

Go to the edge.

With MysteryVibe’s smart app, you can give your partner control of your pleasure. They can increase the intensity of the vibes until you’re close to orgasm, then slow down again, building lots of tension and anticipation for an even more powerful finale. 

Get all tied up.

Add some bondage to your play! You and your partner can take turns teasing each other with the app while the other can only moan and writhe and squirm with pleasure. 

Time for a spanking!

For kinky lovers, slide Crescendo to stimulate both G-spot and clitoris at the same time, while you get a rhythm going with simultaneous spanking and/or flogging. Every impact brings extra vibes, making for an irresistibly sexy playtime. 

Get Wet.

Crescendo is made of fully waterproof sealed and body-safe silicone, so you can get wet and wild anywhere you want. Surprise your partner with an extra-sexy morning shower, or relax and get intimate in an evening bubble bath.

Experiment with Crescendo

For couples looking to explore anal play, Crescendo’s slim design will make each experience smoother, sexier, and evoke new sensations you never felt before.

Reference

1. “Your Pocket Guide to Prostate Pleasure.” MysteryVibe, mysteryvibe.com/blogs/learn/pocket-guide-prostate-pleasure. Accessed 3 Sept. 2021.

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