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Tom & Bunny's Swinging Q&A: ASN August 2019
In this Q&A with ASN Lifestyle Magazine's Tom & Bunny, they answer a question about new swingers that are curious about exhibitionism and voyeurism. They also discuss where they draw the line for their own privacy as an open couple.
Question #1: How Can New Swingers Find Out if They're Voyeurs, Exhibitionists, Or...?
Q: Dear Tom and Bunny,
I came across to one of your videos, and I have seen many of them, so as you can imagine what kind of search I was doing. Just a little bit about myself. We were 18 when we got married and have been married for more than 26 years now. This is something that you mention in one of your videos about getting married at a young age. We live in South Florida. We would like to start very slow, as we consider ourselves to be conservative. I want to get your advice to see what is the best way to start and see if we like to be voyeurs or exhibitionist or something else. What do you recommend is the best way to start? Because it's one thing to say it and another is to do it. Maybe go to the Hotel in Hollywood? Anyway, your videos help a lot but if you can give us some advice that would be great.
Thank you
A: Hi MG,
We are very aware of the hotel you mention in your email, while it is a great hotel and a lot of fun and we recommend it to everyone new and experienced. For what you are asking specifically, we do not think this is the best avenue to take if you are wanting to see a full picture of what a swingers situation really is. With you being in South Florida and you mention Hollywood specifically, if you go over to Trapeze Ft. Lauderdale on a Saturday night, the club will be packed full of people. There you can go people watch to your hearts desires from the mixing and mingling in the social areas and the dance floor and of course you can walk the playrooms all without having to do anything you do not want to do. If you decide you want to play, there are both an “everyone is welcome area” and a couples only area. They have a great staff, bartenders and a full food buffet that is five stars so that you do not even have to go eat before going. You can bring your own alcohol, and they have all the mixers, please remember to tip your bartenders. They do have a valet which we highly suggest you do because they have all the upfront parking. Your car is at risk parking on your own unless you get there really early and you may find some spare front parking. Go in with smiles and be approachable and talk to people. Remember, talking is not a guarantee to sex on either side; however, it is a lot more fun talking to people than being a wallflower. Be part of the party, and you will want to go back again.
We suggest you go to our site tomandbunny.com (which we assume you have already been) and click on Clubs. You can watch our Trapeze Ft Lauderdale video to see what it looks like on the inside. Sorry, we do not have a Miami Velvet video, and we have not been able to reach anyone about doing a video there. We do not have any experience there, but you can also check out that club and know you do not need to do anything you do not want to do. As we say in our videos, “you can only go as fast as the slowest person,” and there is no need to rush that person. We also recently did a few videos that would cater to you. Go to our videos link and click on the following videos; “Misconceptions about the Swinging Lifestyle,” “Get up and meet people,” “It’s expensive to be a swinger,” and “Sex and Boundaries.” There are a lot more videos that you can also watch, but these are our newest. Also, just in case you do play, we made a video, “What’s in our play bag, always be prepared.”
We would love to hear back from you on what you have experienced. Sort of keep tabs on how you are enjoying or not enjoying the lifestyle and your feedback on your experiences.
Question #2: Do You Have Your Own Play Videos?
Q: Dear Tom and Bunny,
I love your videos about swingers. One thing that comes to my mind, if you have any videos of you doing it? Just curious...
A: Hi RJ,
The simple answer is no; we do not do videos of us doing it. But we have been getting several emails asking the same question. We are a Lifestyle couple who are in the lifestyle to meet other couples and select singles. We prefer our interactions to be more private, so not only do we not do personal or public videos of us doing it, we don't allow others to video our play interactions. Many people enjoy taking photos and videos of their playtime alone and with others, however, prefer ours to just be memories. :) Thank you for your email and thank you for watching our videos.
If we start doing videos of us doing it, we will post links to our tomandbunny.com website.
This article originally appeared in the August 2019 issue of ASN Lifestyle Magazine.
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