Domain 1: ALIGNMENT

Please choose the answer that best describes your feelings for each of the statements below:

1. I feel my partner and I are on the same page about most things (e.g. sex, money, kids).

2. We can usually find some agreement when we discuss challenging issues for us.

3. My partner knows my life dreams, goals & aspirations and I feel supported by them.

4. We have a lot of common interests and like to do many similar things.

5. We know and understand each other’s needs, wants and desires; we deal with change constructively and welcome diverse experiences together.

Domain 2: UNFILTERED COMMUNICATION

Please choose the answer that best describes your feelings for each of the statements below:

1. We do NOT have any missing or incomplete conversations between us.

2. We talk openly about our sexual desires, fantasies, interests, & turn-on’s/off’s.

3. There are no secrets between us; Candor and straight talk is our way with one another.

4. We are comfortable talking about anything without judgment, defensiveness or criticism and with mutual respect for differences to seek understanding.

5. I communicate authentically (total honesty), in ways that make me transparent (openness) and vulnerable (fully known) to my partner.

Domain 3: CONFLICT

Please choose the answer that best describes your feelings for each of the statements below:

1. I do not feel personally attacked or criticized when we disagree or have a conflict.

2. It is safe in our relationship to talk openly without judgment, negativity or fear.

3. We have positive strategies for how to resolve conflict and differences.

4. I feel listened to and respected when we disagree about things.

5. We repair quickly, take breaks if needed and slow things down if we get angry.

Domain 4: SEXUALITY VS. EROTICISM

Please choose the answer that best describes your feelings for each of the statements below:

1. My partner knows what excites and turns me on/off sensually/sexually.

2. We both feel free to explore, be creative and use our imagination sexually.

3. My partner and I discuss our fantasies, needs and interests sensually/sexually.

4. I feel loved, cared for, nurtured and physically attracted to my partner.

5. Our relationship is both romantic and passionate.

Domain 5: BOUNDARIES

Please choose the answer that best describes your feelings for each of the statements below:

1. I am clear about and understand my partner’s emotional sensitivities and vulnerabilities.

2. We communicate regularly about “what’s OK & not OK” – We know what “emotional safety” means and looks like for us.

3. We both know and are responsive to expectations we each have of one another.

4. We have identified our “red lines” and agree they protect our values & priorities.

5. I can hold my partner accountable for what they DO, while accepting them for who they ARE.

Domain 6: AGREEMENTS

Please choose the answer that best describes your feelings for each of the statements below:

1. I trust my partner will keep and honor what we agree to; they do what they say they will do and don’t do what they say they will not.

2. I feel respected when we disagree and am confident in our ability to compromise.

3. We know the difference between “intentions” and “agreements” and our promises to each other are based on strong personal integrity.

4. I am comfortable talking openly and addressing it timely when an agreement is not followed as it was agreed to.

5. We are honest about our needs, wants, desires and expectations respectful of each other’s choice around consent.

Domain 7: RITUALS & ROUTINES

Please choose the answer that best describes your feelings for each of the statements below:

1. We have specific and meaningful ways we connect and share our love for each other.

2. There are regular things we do that make me and our relationship feel special/unique.

3. I know what my partner needs and they understand mine for how to feel cherished, loved and secure – we have routines for connecting that soothe and draw us close.

4. I look forward to reunions with my partner if I feel distant emotionally and/or physically.

5. During down time we do things we both enjoy and value together.

Thank You for Taking the Lifestyle Inventory Checklist (LIC)

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The Lifestyle Inventory Check-Up Quiz Results

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Thank you for taking the first step to a better understanding of your Erotic Lifestyle Readiness!

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To maximize your results, we suggest also having your partner take the LIC so you can go over your results together.